One of my biggest pet peeves is when outsiders go digging where they don't belong. Or let me put it this way: when those who are not directly involved in a situation make it their business.
For example, when someone gets engaged and people suddenly get all nosy about their life. You get like, 50 new friend requests on Facebook and every woman ever thinks its their right to know all the intimate details about the wedding. The thing that bugged me the most is when people would demand to see my ring. "Show me your ring!" Excuse me, what? Have we forgotten our manners here? It is my ring, my wedding, my life, and there should be no demands to be included in the details if it does not concern you. In short, it's none of your business.
Another example: the situation involving Jerry Sandusky and Penn State officials. Everybody has opinions, and I understand that. In fact, I am quite pleased to see that people have such vast opinions because it means, no matter where they stand on the issue, they have a moral code. But let's be real:
It's none of your business. Or mine. Or anyone else's except for those directly involved.
And who is directly involved? The university officials, victims, their families and those conducting the legal proceedings.
That's it.
To everyone who doesn't fall into the above categories, do as you did before. I'm not saying ignore it- be aware but be sensitive to the fact that those involved may not want the entire country looking at them, regardless of innocence or guilt. Realize that these are real people.
Also, it is never a wise idea to start flaking out at the first sign of trouble, nor hating anyone due to their actions (especially if you are not directly part of the deal, and therefore naive).
So as you go through life, please remember: 1) your place in different situations, 2) that real people are involved in everything, so try to be a little empathetic and sensitive, and 3) your responses to adversity strengthen or destroy character; there is no middle ground.
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